Liverpool— As the count down to the New Year begins, positive change tends to be apart of the tradition. New Year’s resolutions are made- some people follow through with their goals, while some resolutions are not quite met.
ABC50 spoke with life coach Marianne Strait, who believes that setting goals are just as important as understanding what holds you back from reaching them. Mrs. Strait uses a technique called Faster E.F.T. (Emotionally Focused Transformation), which utilizes acupressure tapping, in addition to learning what memories associate with limiting behaviors.
Mrs. Strait explained that finding triggers or root causes of negative behaviors, often allows people to find the source of fear. Fear of failure or success can be a powerful and limiting emotion, which tends to hold people back from achieving their full potential. Mrs. Strait tries to help people relearn how to see a memory in a different way:
“There are people that have tragedies or even remember something from childhood that limits them as an adult. It’s really important to reframe limiting memories, so it no longer holds us back in adulthood. Once you’re able to resolve limiting childhood memories or figure out the root cause of what holds you back, goals are much more achievable.”
According to Mrs. Strait, fear of failure or success often causes self-sabotaging behaviors. Learning how to change negative thought patterns or beliefs can heighten the chances for success. As long self-doubt exists, it is difficult to take the steps necessary to make dreams happen.
From Mrs. Strait's professional experience, the two major goals that people tend to set as New Year’s resolutions are to lose weight and make more money. One suggestion that Mrs. Strait has for folks looking to set goals, is to try and not set too high of a bar for yourself.
If you do set a high goal, ensure that you break down a large goal into manageable, achievable steps. Goals still need to be something you know you can do and accomplish within a realistic time frame.